What can we expect from a cyber
The answer to that depends primarily upon what kind
of relationship you wish to develop. Are you cybering
with a stranger with the expectation that you will never
run into them again? Are you cybering with someone whom
you consider to be a good friend? Are you cybering with
someone with whom you have developed an emotional bond?
These are all examples of the different levels of cybering.
sex...They are ALL relationships with other people...and
from what I can tell, the medium is not all that relevant.
Each participant in cyber sex has his or her own agenda...just
like we do in real life.”
“The relationship does not have to have meaning
to be functional.“
Who says relationships cannot be built on a small amount
of words? But to what extent do we go when forming these
kinds of relationships? Are they just relationships
built on fantasies? Perhaps for some they are merely
games and a way to "get off". However, to
many, the online game of meet-and-swap-feelings sets
the foundations of lasting relationships. In fact, people
have met, gotten married… and the damn relationship
lasted! Sadly, many others will end up falling in love
with someone who may never materialize past their modems.
This can be devastating.
"Have feelings become an issue? For some, yes.
I find that I really care about these people - a couple
I even love. It became more than just the sex. Even
while I know I can never actually have them, I feel
selfish and take what I can from them."
“I must admit, cyber sex has its pitfalls too.
Getting too attached to your partner is bad - people
just have a tendency to disappear here. And to take
it a step further, I've actually met in person people
I've met online. God, was it a bad idea.”
“Only one had some pitfalls when we started to
become too attached, and the distance involved in traveling
would have been impossible at the time. Having said
that, we remain close friends and the experience was
exactly what both of us needed at the time.”