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                         Technical aspects 
                         
                          Instant messaging allows very private, one-on-one communication 
                          and instant feedback. You meet, and the typing and masturbation 
                          begins. Now of course, this only works well when you 
                          have the ability to type well, at a good pace, and you 
                          and your partner are not afraid to masturbate. You do 
                          know you have to touch yourself, right? Good spelling 
                          may be optional but not necessary. But believe me when 
                          I say, nothing upsets the person getting off than to 
                          suddenly see someone wants to put a "clock" 
                          in their pussy, instead of a "cock". The mood 
                          can be irrevocably altered, as laughing fits tend to 
                          produce the same effect as cold shower. 
                        
                        “well.....the spelling, it depends (like everything 
                          else with me lol) on the person, if they make a mistake, 
                          it's ok but I can't tell you how much it irritates me 
                          when people don't know the difference between their, 
                          there, and they're and you're and your...GOD that annoys 
                          me and I would never cyber with someone who can't get 
                          those straight...just my lil' pet peeve but an occasional 
                          error doesn't bother me b/c we all make mistakes.” 
                         
                        Getting off in this manner isn't for everyone.  
                        “I have yet to get off typing..somehow "gasp 
                          gasp" "oh baby" as written words seem 
                          to loose their power.”  
                        You have to be able to use your imagination. Run their 
                          words through your mind. Add a voice with gasps and 
                          whispers and inflection and passion. Here is where good 
                          description is essential. Describe the scene, include 
                          as many senses as you can. 
                        "One pitfall is trying to address the keyboard 
                          and your desires at the same time." 
                        The inevitable question...How do you type and jerk 
                          off at the same time? There are several ways to remedy 
                          this situation. The first is to take turns. Type to 
                          you partner your thoughts. Make it a running of commentary, 
                          allowing the other to, um, service themself. When they 
                          have finished, you get your turn.  
                        “It's easier to type, stop, type, stop. for however 
                          long is necessary.”  
                        Or, you could become very adept at typing one-handed. 
                        “I didn't type and get off at the same time, 
                          but re-read his words afterwards, and masturbated. So 
                          did he, and then we'd tell each other what we did! Other 
                          times we'd write a whole fantasy, and then the receiver 
                          could masturbate without interruption.”  
                        You might want to keep your messages to each other 
                          short, maybe a sentence at a time. That way the receiving 
                          partner is getting a steady stream of visual/mental 
                          stimulation, rather than waiting for three minutes while 
                          you type a paragraph. You might also want to settle 
                          ahead of time how you are going to indicate to your 
                          partner when you have had your orgasm. There’s 
                          nothing more annoying to be typing your little heart 
                          out, sharing your sexy thoughts to the silence on the 
                          other end only to receive a message like, “Sorry, 
                          I stepped out to clean up.” 
                        Speaking of cleaning up - make like a Boy Scout and 
                          always be prepared. You know you’re there to masturbate, 
                          so make sure you’ve prepared your area before 
                          you begin. Also, if you’re concerned that you 
                          may be interrupted, please inform your partner that 
                          it is a possibility.  
                        
                          
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